Marking the end of Bein Ha-metzarim period lasting three weeks, Tu B’Av is a joyful festival, celebrating joy, love and rebirth. First mentioned in the Mishnah, Ta’anit, Chapter 4. The 15th of Av represents the rebirth following the great destruction of the Holy temple, marked on Av 9th. It is a day of studying the Torah and as being day of rebirth, it is a popular day for weddings and matchmaking!
Maidens of Jerusalem
According to the Talmud all the maidens of Jerusalem were called to go out, dance in the vineyards in borrowed white clothes, and call the Jewish men raise their eyes and see which one they select for themselves.
"Go out, daughters of Zion, and see King Solomon, in the crown with which his mother crowned him on his wedding day and on the day of his heart's rejoicing" (Song of Songs 3:11). And so it is the day of Torah studying as His wedding day is the giving of the Torah and day of his joyful heart is the building of the Temple that is to be build in the days to come.
How do you choose the right woman?
Well, the following guidelines were true then and true now: “Young man, lift up your eyes and choose wisely. Don’t look only at physical beauty – look rather at the family – ‘For charm is false, and beauty is vanity. A G-d – fearing woman is the one to be praised…’ (“Mishlei”/Proverbs 31:30)”
In today’s modern society one might also add, look at the woman’s education and profession when choosing your companion. In addition, one might also address the woman and ask her to raise her eyes and look upon the men before her and choose the right one according to the same guidelines.
I am my beloved’s and my beloved’s mine
‘Ani LeDodi VeDodi Li’ is the oldest and most beautiful way to express your love and commitment. This popular verse is taken from Song of Songs, chapter 6, verse a3: I belong to the man I love, and he belongs to me; he pastures his flock among the lilies.” Shir Hashirim is a beautiful poetry book written by King Solomon about love, and this is the most famous verse from this book. Pick any verse you wish and there you have your wedding vows.
Ani Ledodi Jewelry– most beautiful gift
Picking out a Tu B’Av gift or your wedding rings? Ani LeDodi necklaces and rings are the most precious and beautiful option. Your loved one will carry your love in her heart at all times and all moments; looking upon the piece, it will remind them of your commitment and presence every step of the way and journey you have decided taking together.
It is a bond involving you, your beloved and God, a bond of commitment, mutuality, love and friendship.
Ani Ledodi silver necklace with opal- marvelous to showcase your love with everyday wear
Ani LeDodi wedding ring– for infinite and pure gold love and commitment
She is the woman of valor, woman of many talents and virtues show your gratitude for having her in your life with by singing Eshet Chayil song on Shabbat. Thank the woman who turned a house into a home and prepared it for Shabbat the queen. A special gift will not go unnoticed and will be a magnificent surprise!
Pomegranate necklace– for she brings so many blessings to your life as the pomegranate’s seeds
While it is important to celebrate your union and commitment every day, Tu B’Av is a great opportunity to do something out of the ordinary, because the fact that you found each other isn’t ordinary and shouldn’t be taken for granted.
So, go out to the vineyards, streets of Jerusalem, or gather up around Shabbat table and celebrate your love!
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